Recently my grandmother passed away. As I was reflecting on grandma’s life, the Lord took my thoughts to three different women in the Bible.
The first is the story of Mary and Martha found in Luke 10:38-42.
Luke 10:38 As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. 39 She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord's feet listening to what he said. 40 But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, "Lord, don't you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!"
41 "Martha, Martha," the Lord answered, "you are worried and upset about many things, 42 but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her" (NIV).
We read in this account about Jesus coming to visit Mary and Martha at their home. We see here that they, without reservation, opened their home for Jesus to visit.
I can never remember going to Grandma’s house, either as a young child or as a married woman taking my family, without feeling that she, without reservation, was welcoming me into her home.
Often times when this scripture is read, one might feel as if Jesus is upset with Martha because she was busy with the preparations and not sitting at His feet. The purpose for the Holy writ is for us to use it as guidance and direction for our journey here on earth. What a precious gift the Word of God is to us. So, for that reason I choose to take a different lesson out of this scripture and a lesson I feel Grandma not only heard, but one she lived and has left as a legacy for us.
Let me explain. Martha’s gift of serving, as well as Mary’s love for learning at the Master’s feet, had been given to them by the Lord. The point Christ wanted to make in this scripture is that these gifts must be used in balance. Serve AND spend time with the Master. As these remain in balance one doesn’t lose focus of why she is doing what she is doing. I believe Grandma’s life modeled this life lesson well.
She enjoyed serving her family from her kitchen. I can remember going to her house as a child for Sunday dinner. What a spread she would prepare! Fried chicken, ham, mashed potatoes and noodles, coleslaw, macaroni and cheese, green beans, corn, hot rolls topped off with wonderful desserts like chocolate pie, cobbler, and ice cream. No doubt all that food took lots of preparation on Grandma’s part, but she always had a smile on her face as she was setting the table.
Grandma had found the balance. She knew why she did what she did. She had not become distracted with all the preparations. She was serving as unto the Lord. She was using her gift for His glory.
Even in the later years of her life when she was not able to fix the big meals for us to enjoy, she continued to practice opening her home without reservation. When I asked my children what their favorite memory of Granny was, without hesitation, my son said, “Seeing Grandma sit on the couch and smiling at us when we walked into her house.”
In the book of Acts chapter nine verse 36 we read an account of another woman I think of when I reflect on Grandma’s life. This lady is Tabitha. Tabitha was always doing good and helping the poor.
Acts 9:36 “In Joppa there was a disciple named Tabitha (which, when translated, is Dorcas), who was always doing good and helping the poor” (NIV).
Grandma was always busy doing good for others. One family that comes to mind was Pastor Gary McCaw and his wife. They were Grandma and Grandpa’s pastor for a number of years. Often when we would be visiting on Sundays the McCalls would be there also.
I can remember Grandma would never quite be satisfied until Pastor Gary would take home some canned green beans, fresh canned tomato juice, or freezer corn.
Every garden season Grandma was always busy doing good by making sure she had enough green beans, tomato juice and freezer corn prepared to give to the Pastor and his wife in the fall and winter when these items weren’t so easy to get your hands on.
I don’t know about you, but I am challenged by the Mary-Martha and Tabitha part of my grandmother’s life.
Sometimes, ladies, let’s face it, we lose the joy in serving. Let us receive the challenge of using the gifts God has given us for His glory and honor as Grandma did.
Dear Jesus, please help us to keep the balance of serving and spending time with you. Help us to serve as you would desire for us to. Help us to be sensitive to those times you put people in our path to serve. We love you Jesus.